I have always had a keen interest in learning about highly successful people and in particular, their journey to the top...but this was something else.
- two failed television series
- several failed attempts at a solo career
- failed Sonny and Cher television show,
- several failed Sonny and Cher albums resulting in getting dropped from her label several times
- 2 failed attempts with Geffen records
- two early movie failures which practically sunk her acting career.
I'm sure I've missed a few as well.
At the same time, she suffered a slowdown of her musical career.
Cher changed musical directions several times...
"Take me home" became a worldwide success. With success in music, film and television, as well as launching successful fitness videos and doing lucrative infomercials, she eventually built a $600 billion dollar empire.
and every time I am able to dig deep, I find a familiar pattern...
a person who has been knocked down, and gotten back up, numerous times.
I find great life lessons in such things, that can relate directly to wrestling.
I’m reminded often that you have to be willing to fail if you’re ever going to succeed.
No matter who you are, how mentally or physically tough you are, nobody…and I do mean nobody - is on, at their best, wrestles their best, every time out. Its just not how it works for us mere mortals.
Just ask Cher.
What’s hard is dealing with the flip-side of that coin. Bad match, not at the top of his game, lacks intensity, motivation, energy, focus, direction.
Now what do you do?
Here’s a guaranteed method that my own mother used with me…and I never hesitated to come over when a match was over, no matter how poorly I wrestled.
Instead, I got open ended questions or silence.
Open ended questions such as, “well, what do you think?” Or “what can be learned from this experience?” Even, “what’s your plan?”
Sometimes though, silence was best. My parents would let me do the talking - if I felt like it.
After failure - and, like Cher, I've had plenty - I kept getting back up and trying harder.
I still fail sometimes - but I don't fear it.
That's the true model for success, not only in wrestling, but in life.
We simply can’t be afraid to fail…and parents can help tremendously in developing that mindset.